“Are you a mom?”
I’m not very sophisticated in sl.
My fave av is a neko cat, a black one with spots. Male. He’s who I am most of the time. Right?
So, Last night, I’m dancing at Cirque, IMing a friend, a female in both rl and sl.
She says, “Can I be inquisitive?” I say “Sure.”
She says, “Are you a mom?”
I say, “Nope. I’m a dad.”
“Oh, well I had you pegged wrong.”
“You thought I was fem?”
“Yeah.”
“What made you think so?”
I’m thinking, hmmm. My wife does say that I’m like a woman in some ways. That I like to talk and listen and connect. It’s funny to me that these things are thought of as fem traits. It also makes me think that men are missing out on some really cool coolness.
“Most guys in here don’t talk about books, unless it’s porn or a programming guide. That’s one thing.”
“I gave up porn long ago, and I’ve never really read a programming book. I’m an English major. Do people really talk about programming books?”
“It’s the way you connect, too. In conversations.”
“Well, now that you know I’m a man, I bet the way you think of me will change.”
“How do you think that would change?”
“I’m dunno. I have to keep my predictions of women’s thinking really general, which helps me to avoid looking like a complete idiot, mostly.”
So. We’ll see.
I must admit, my thinking and behavior did change. Which is an interesting look at my own reactions towards men and women. I began to open up more. And to feel more. Which is all very interesting.
I agree. And I’m delighted to have been of service. Really, I am.